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Mom calls cops to thwart video-game-playing son

2009-12-23T09:23:30Z

http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2009/12/22/MNOR1B7N7F.DTL&tsp=1

From the article:

Zanoli says the mother's 911 call over video game obsession "was a little unusual, but by no means is it surprising - especially in today's day and age when these kids play video games and computer games."

Yeah, not surprising in a day when child owners are incapable of parenting. Take the damn game system away, Mom!

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Babies in commercials

2009-12-22T16:58:36Z

Seriously, what is going on with this trend? Not only most of the time they are not showing baby-related items. They are so sugar-coated and "awww, look how cute" that makes my stomach revolt.

The latest one I saw tonight. Picture this: a new mom with her baby just by the Christmas tree. Daddy appears. "So, is she sleep?", he asks. "Yeah. What are you doing up? It's 2 AM". - because we all know that no new dads get up at 2 in the morning to cuddle the baby - "This is our first Christmas as a family, and I couldn't wait". And he pops up the jewelry case with the diamond ring.

So, the message is that I have to have a baby to be given a diamond ring? Thanks, but no thanks.

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I think God is sending a message

2009-12-19T03:24:50Z

http://wonderwall.msn.com/tv/michelle-and-jim-bob-duggars-19th-child-arrives-prematurely-1529463.story?GT1=28148

STOP ALREADY!!!!

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Pissed and upset and mad. Why are people so stupid?!

2009-12-18T17:50:39Z

I can't sleep. I am so pissed off and upset right now. Hubs told me not too long ago his friend, who has new kittens, let his 7 and 6 year old have them in their bedroom for the night. And one of the kitties came out dragging a leg and in severe pain. I am LIVID. Cause he KNOWS the boys are violent and they wrestle before falling asleep. I don't know why he did it. He must have had his head stuck far up his ass to do that. What a fucking ass. Who in their right mind lets the violent brats have fragile little critters for the night!!!! I hope he gets hit by a HUGE vet bill and it hurts his pocket so much he is broke from here to the next several months. That is just as bad as people who leave their dogs in the car in extreme heat or extreme cold. I am so pissed off right now I can't stop crying.

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Amusing photo

2009-12-13T07:13:21Z

OK, I'm warped, but it made me laugh:

http://icanhascheezburger.com/2009/12/04/funny-pictures-what-i-am-about/

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Another reason to firebomb Park Slope and similar 'hoods...read on..

2009-12-07T01:54:26Z

TOT YOGA.

http://totyoga.com/

"For 10 Months to 3 Years."

Yeah, because 10-month olds are SOOO good at taking instruction, sitting still, and holding poses.

Yes, so you can enjoy the holistic sounds and smells of a screaming, full-diaper fuck trophy when you're trying to relax in a YOGA class.

Someone I know casually is shilling the book.

Sure, it's supposed to be "stay at home" activity but you know and I know that this is custom-made for the "take your baby to bars" crowd. Guess the gym isn't safe either now.

What next, "Full Contact Cage Fighting for Toddlers?"

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Child screaming on airline, and of course, it's the airline's fault

2009-11-24T06:48:32Z

So, a toddler screams his head off on a plane about to embark, interferes with safety announcements, annoys the hell out of everyone, and the crew (quite rightly) asks the mother to leave the plane.

And then, the airline later apologizes to the mother:

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/33555007/?GT1=43001

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So now that the healthcare bill has passed....

2009-11-10T22:22:43Z

...and the abortion amendment made it, what are we willing to do to assist in providing affordable abortions for those who are in need?

Are there resources to subsidze them? Does anyone know?

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And I thought being a parent was one of the most productive tasks?

2009-11-01T00:35:29Z

I came across a mommy website about making extra cash, and this boggled my mind:

"But staying home with the kids does not mean that you can't be a productive member of the team."

WHAT?

Why does it always go back to making money? Isn't being a stay at home parent productive itself? Aren't you being productive the moment you start taking care of your spawn and raising it to be a good individual? Aren't you a stay at home parent because you CAN and are ABLE to stay at home? Why do these parents equal being productive to making money? Why does that sentence sound like like "I'd rather be working and making money than staying home taking care of the brats"?

These are the same idiots that tell us how "fullfilling" having children is and how "selfish" and "lazy" we are for not having any. Yet they don't feel "productive". How disgusting.

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Platinum Babies.

2009-10-31T15:54:44Z

Jeezus.. here's a show I won't be watching.. the commerical.. one of them said they were spending 40-60K on the nursery! How fucked up will these kids be???

http://www.wetv.com/platinum-babies

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Has anyone else had Essure put in? I'm having some odd symptoms..

2009-10-28T23:51:23Z

Hey all. After years of trying, finally got my ob-gyn to put in Essures (instead of getting an old-fashioned tubal) last Thursday (July 23rd). Unfortunately, it didn't go smoothly at first. I was dumb enough to only get some kind of Motrin injection, and everything hurt like hell. However, my ob-gyn allegedly got the tubes placed correctly.

I bled and expelled fluid for the rest of the day and part of the day after, but all of the bleeding seemed to have gotten over itself by Saturday morning.

Then in the middle of the night on Saturday I started getting red bleeding, like a regular period that I used to have before I went on the Pill in college (and which I am still on now). Bright red blood with some chunky bits in it. I called my obgyn's office that Sunday, got the service, and in an hour I got a call back from the lady on weekend call duty. She seemed unconcerned and said that this was within "normal" parameters.

Note that I got a LOT of fluid in me during the procedure; we went through almost 2 bags of saline.

Then I started getting some crampiness, almost like a stabbing pain. Now, I realize that this could be the instrumentation effect. I had a D&C to remove polyps last year and I bled for 3 weeks after that. Heck, I even bleed from a Pap smear. Still, given the possibilities and all of the horror stories on the Intertubes (puns intended) I'm starting to worry.

Well, this has been going on since Sunday and here it is, Friday again. I spoke to my obgyn on Wednesday and she said that we're still within normal parameters.

Bleeding went from "solid red" to "watery red" and then last night I thought I was catching a break; bleeding seemed to have stopped.

But of course I woke up this AM and...more red blood with some bits in it, and back to the cramping/pinching feeling.

I have another call in to my ob-gyn even though I'm seeing her next Thursday. HATING this. I truly hope that I'm not one of the few who can't tolerate them, but what's normal? Was thinking of trying to tough this out through my next period, which is due the week after next.

Anyone else have a similar experience?

Thanks so much!

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Awesome site

2009-10-20T17:33:23Z

http://whythefuckdoyouhaveakid.com

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are we becoming mainstream?

2009-10-20T14:27:57Z

I haven't read the book or anything, and I'm not sure there's any need to elaborate on anything in this summary of "Two is enough" by Laura Scott.

http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/relationship-issues/articles/childfree-by-choice

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Terrible Headline

2009-09-26T02:17:23Z

"Pregnant Woman Pregnant Again"
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/09/24/pregnant-woman-pregnant-a_n_298633.html
At first I thought this was the dumbest headline ever, and a really slow news day, but it's actually a fairly interesting, weird medical anomaly.

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No Kidding! Childfree Convention in Houston, Texas: April 22-25, 2010

2009-09-25T05:41:44Z

This is an annual convention for childfree and childless adults. Hope you will attend!

BOOK YOUR ROOM FOR THE ANNUAL NO KIDDING! CONVENTION:
Dates: Thursday, April 22 - Sunday, April 25, 2010
Where: Crowne Plaza Hotel Downtown
Houston, Texas (USA)

In-House Reservations: In-House Reservations office hours are Monday through Friday between 8:00 am and 5:00 pm Central time: 713-739-8800 ext 44
Crowne Plaza Worldwide Reservations: Crowne Plaza Reservations Worldwide Reservations can be reached 5:00 pm or weekends. 1-800-227-6963
Online: www.cpdowntown. com
The block of rooms will be held until April 8th, 2010, so don't delay!
The group code is NOK.
Room rate is $112 per night, plus sales tax.
Optional: When you book your room, you can ask for "Quiet Zones" under the "Sleep Advantage Program", no maintenance or housekeeping between 9:00pm and 10:00am unless requested, and children and leisure groups are booked elsewhere in the hotel.
Parking is just $10 per day, unlimited in/out.

Amenities:
outdoor pool, garden courtyard, restaurant/bar on premises, handicapped accessible rooms, fitness center, high speed internet access, coffee maker in room, free shuttle bus to downtown locations (subject to availability) .

Walking distance to Metro rail, bus transportation center and airport shuttle, restaurants, theaters, bars.

SPECIAL GUEST SPEAKERS:
Jerry Steinberg, Founding Non-Father of No Kidding! International
Laura Scott, author of "Two Is Enough: A Couple's Guide to Living Childless by Choice"

TENTATIVE SCHEDULE (subject to change)

Thursday evening 4/22/10:
For the early-birds:
5PM: meet and greet cocktail hour at the hotel (in the bar, in the lobby lounge, at the pool or in the courtyard), (possibly a wine/beer tasting)
dinner (location to be determined)
After dinner: murder mystery game (location to be determined).

Friday 4/23/10:
Daytime: sightseeing, museums, tours, shopping, etc.
International fest (all day)
5PM: meet-and-greet cocktail hour (in the lobby lounge, by the pool or in the courtyard) (possibly a wine/beer tasting)
6PM til ???: dine-around dinners: small groups of 4-10 people will leave for various restaurants at 15-minute intervals.
9PM: Talk by Laura Scott, author of "Two is Enough: A Couple's Guide to Living Chidlfree by Choice), with dessert and coffee, at hotel.
10PM: Singles bar crawl and clubbing

Saturday 4/24/10:
10AM: brunch and talk by No Kidding! founder Jerry Steinberg in the hotel.
Saturday daytime: sightseeing, museums, tours, shopping, and other group activities.
International Fest all day
7PM til ???: The main event: dinner banquet party in the hotel ballroom. Dinner, drinks, bellydance show, and karaoke/DJ/Dancing.
11:30PM: Clubbing and/or bar-crawl

Sunday 4/25/10:
8AM until ???: Farewell breakfast in the hotel. I will ask the hotel to rope off an area of the restaurant for us.

For those who are staying later, a day trip to Clear Lake for a tour of NASA Johnson Space Center: http://www.spacecenter.org/ I have friends who work at NASA who can get us a special tour that's better than the touristy one.
Afterwards, late lunch and drinks at Kemah Boardwalk, a waterfront resort area with restaurants, bars, rides, live music, etc. http://www.kemahboardwalk.com

International Fest (http://www.ifest. org) will be going on downtown all weekend. There will be concerts on Friday night, all day Saturday, and all day Sunday. It will probably be self-guided rather than a group activity. There are always lots of big-name acts that perform, as well as local bands.

The discounted hotel room rate is available for Sunday evening too!

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Giving out coupons for kid's clothing

2009-09-13T20:14:37Z

I work at a clothing store and the last couple of weeks I've been offering discount coupons to the adult department shoppers for kids clothes. It's very interesting how many of them do not want the coupons and say something like "Nooooooo! There are no kids in my world, don't give me that coupon." It's refreshing actually.

A few times I get a young couple who says, "No.", and gets embarrassed, blushing visibly, I suppose 'cause they haven't yet discussed children between themselves. But there are really a lot of people who don't want anything to do with children, and children's clothes. At least from my perspective at the adult section of a major clothing store. How refreshing!

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Obama's Healthcare

2009-09-12T01:50:07Z

I had been totally rooting for Universal Healthcare under Obama until I heard him say in the recent speech that abortions would not be covered. How about birth control? What about penis implants, Viagra, etc? I think not covering termination is completely wrong, and it's actually illegal for insurance companies to do so, so the government would be presenting its citizens with unequal coverage. And as we know, it's maternity that creates the largest expenses.

Ok, done with rant. My dream of national healthcare is broken, but I guess overall it may still be a step in the right direction, I just wish it weren't with women a step behind.

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Genius!!!: "Contraception can reduce carbon emissions"

2009-09-11T05:10:53Z

http://www.upi.com/Science_News/2009/09/09/Contraception-can-reduce-carbon-emissions/UPI-98591252522065/

Okay, we all pretty much knew it, but at least they broke it down in the numbers.

"A report prepared by the London School of Economics says for every $6.63 spent on contraceptives over the next 40 years it would cost $31.48 to achieve the same reduction in CO2 emissions with low carbon technology..."

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Random...

2009-09-11T05:10:01Z

I heard a woman refer to the unsupervised free-range child as Feral Children and it caused me to think. Of course Feral Children are the mythical kids raised by wolves but I wondered if there actually was a term for that kid who was never appropriately raised by the absentee parent and flails through life. I hadn't found one clean phrase but did find a site with various phrases for street children from around the world.

http://www.pangaea.org/street_children/world/who3.htm

"Their lives have tended to be romanticized by some, but in most instances they have been referred to in derogatory terms: "gamin" (urchin) and "chinches" (bed bugs) in Colombia, "marginais" (criminals/marginals) in Rio, "pajaro frutero" (fruit birds) in Peru, "polillas" (moths) in Bolivia, "resistoleros" (little rebels) in Honduras, "scugnizzi" (spinning tops) in Naples, "Bui Doi" (dust children) in Vietnam, "saligoman" (nasty kids) in Rwanda, or "poussins" (chicks), "moustiques" (mosquitos) in Cameroon and "balados" (wanderers) in Zaire and Congo."

So yeah, no real rant today, just somethig random.

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So What, the guy was just telling a kid to shut up

2009-09-10T22:00:26Z

everyone has been out in public and had to deal with listening to some
ones little bobble head while they whined and screamed,,,
I forgot the link but recently i saw on CNN some guy smacked a kid
and now he is about to be railroaded and looked at as some one this side of hitler,,,

my take on it is I'm just surprised more people don't blow up,,,
at inconsiderate parents or those parents who think their little
ones are the exception to the rule of being in public

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Another reason not to breed...

2009-09-09T15:23:10Z

http://uk.news.yahoo.com/5/20090903/tuk-young-brothers-admit-attacking-two-b-45dbed5.html

WTF is wrong with these kids? They were already on supervision orders.

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Family has 19th kid!

2009-09-06T15:12:01Z

I'd never heard of these people until this morning, some kind of TV "reality show" family deal.

http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/n/a/2009/09/01/national/a123349D76.DTL

Brings to mind the poster in the picture section here: "Vagina -- It's not a clown car."

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Nicknames for the child-free...?

2009-09-03T19:34:30Z

It seems that the parental among us, particularly mothers, get cool nicknames like MILF, and a friend told me in Canada they say "yummy mummy."

Surely there is something we can call hot women - and men - who have no children. I'm generally pretty good with puns and stuff but am drawing a complete blank.

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Not that anyone is surprised...

2009-09-03T18:25:18Z

http://tv.yahoo.com/news/article/tv.accesshollywood.com/duggars-expecting-19th-child-20090901

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And Tent Sales Soar. . .

2009-08-30T15:47:37Z

http://www.theonion.com/content/news/study_74_of_children_tenting_out?utm_source=most_pop_dugg

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Jon and Kate spinoff........

2009-08-27T01:54:20Z

Been away for months (got tired of tribe being down constantly), but, I can't help but share this joyful bit of news with all of you:

(no, I'm NOT the one who's prego)

http://www.stanseljourney.com/how-to-help.html

I hope you guys are doing good!!! Missed this place!!!

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IUD Advice, please

2009-08-26T23:06:20Z

Just went to the gynecologist (Dr. Butt - would you believe it?), and she suggested I might like an IUD better than birthcontrol pills, which I have taken for years. I've also suffered from depression and weight gain for years. She said the IUD might help with that, and is also much less expensive than taking the pill, and really doesn't hurt much going in.

Does anybody have advice on changing from the pill to the IUD? Any problems? Surprises? I appreciate your responses.

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Let's Panic

2009-08-21T18:17:16Z

My partner-in-crime sent me this... pretty funny.
http://www.lets-panic.com/

xoMilo

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Sulemon Octomom has Regrets? Say it ain't so.

2009-08-20T21:10:21Z

http://jezebel.com/5339418/nadya-suleman-i-screwed-myself

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Ok now. First 6 Gosselin, then Octomon. Now TWELVE???????

2009-08-19T20:24:45Z

http://www.postchronicle.com/news/original/article_212251432.shtml

My comment:
There's a reason why you had so many miscarriages, dummy!

Put me out of my misery now, please.

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Hey! CNN is taking a Poll [like -that's- gonna be accurate]

2009-08-12T22:16:38Z

http://connecttheworld.blogs.cnn.com/2009/08/07/going-green-to-the-extreme/

They want to know if having fewer children to save the environment is a good idea. [uh...duh] Interested in wieghing in?

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addicted to pregnancy

2009-08-12T17:05:08Z

Women are addicted to pregnancy! Apparently, pregnancy "fills a void." I can think of better, less long term ways to fill "a void." ; ]

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/32360929/ns/today-today_health//

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Trap, Neuter, Return.

2009-08-12T01:39:40Z

It's been proven to work with feral cats. I wonder if it would work with humans?? I am already thinking of a trap idea, involving some vasectomy ninjas.

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We're green!

2009-08-11T23:55:08Z

Mark Morford linked this in a column:

http://www.livescience.com/environment/090803-children-carbon-footprint.html

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Money well spent...

2009-08-07T21:53:42Z

...on anything else.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090804/ap_on_re_us/us_fea_parenting_cost

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Nice article for today

2009-08-04T17:39:45Z

http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/greenspace/2009/07/population-control-global-warming.html

say it loud and proud! :]

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Dragged children make for great citizens...

2009-08-04T05:35:20Z

http://gizmodo.com/5327482/parent-of-the-year-arrested-after-dragging-kid-through-verizon-store-on-a-leash

Click the link for video.

"Parent Of The Year Arrested After Dragging Kid Through Verizon Store On a Leash

Not surprisingly Melissa Catherine Smith-Means of Alabama (oh...Alabama) was arrested a few months ago for this incident in a Verizon store. Who knew someone would have a camera in a cellphone store?" ... "being arrested she told the police 'My young 'un loves being dragged around on a leash. It's how I was brought up.' "

This is why I have a bigger beef with the parents than the kids.

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Sigh. Another one impregnated to get out of being a productive individual.

2009-08-02T19:34:50Z

My friend posted this on her livejournal:

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there's a chick whom i sit in the hall with, along with someone else, between our science class and the lab class....we sit there and eat and chat....one day last week this chick said that she was "working on getting pregnant" !!! does she have a bf or significant other? no....she said she wanted to get pregnant so she shouldn't have to go to school and her parents won't let her live at home unless she is going to school or has a job and she doesn't want to work so a baby is her way out of going to school---so she thinks, cuz it might surprise her that pregnant women work, go to school, etc....

she's VERY young....like 18....but can we put this off on age??? i mean kids are a life long responsibility, but no, her mom will raise it! no, her mom doesn't know of her plan....

so okay....TODAY in lab we were discussing a field trip we are taking next week...this chick says she can't go because she is 5 months pregnant!!!!!!!!!! yes, the same chick who just last week said she was working on getting pregnant...

did i miss 5 months? did time really fly???

no, i didn't question her....i'm just going to listen, observe and perhaps dispense some wisdom...later on.....but i mean, WHAT THE FUCK?!?!?!?!?! she doesn't look pregnant either....so here's someone obsessed with having a kid and is now claiming they are 5 months pregnant, when just last week she was "working" on getting pregnant...

maybe next week i'll bring up those psychos who murder a pregnant lady to get the baby to see how she responds....it's something in the news, so it wouldn't be unusual to bring that up....

absolutely, i'll report back! but i mean, WHAT THE FUCK??!?!?!?!?!?"
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As if shit wasn't enough....we have some teenage moron trying to get pregnant, and guess who will be paying for it....

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Mother slaughters infant....

2009-08-02T17:13:23Z

and eats his toes, rips his face and eats part if his brain. Excuse my yelling, but WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH HUMANITY!!!!

http://www.breitbart.com/article.php?id=D99MUM7O0&show_article=1

I will go vomit now.

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Using Children in Advertising

2009-07-31T17:03:31Z

This was too good not to post:
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/__XCWUd8FFjQ/Si5wTUVNbnI/AAAAAAAAHKU/f1B3KScr278/s1600-h/DuPont.jpg

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paid to not get pregnant

2009-07-30T21:15:51Z

A program in North Carolina designed to keep girls from getting pregnant by paying them a dollar a day. Great idea!

http://www.wxii12.com/health/19843503/detail.html

(were I in the program, by now I would have earned over $10,000....)

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Psychiatrist...FAIL!!!

2009-07-28T19:59:30Z

So, she used inheritance...my favorite part of the article is where it says she used OT pay from her job as a psychiatric technician...WAY TO GO, DOC!!! This nutbar is working for you!!!

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/30094935

If that were my doctor, I would be choosing a new one right about now...

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New Age Sensitive Dads

2009-07-28T01:33:52Z

Ok, gotta vent a little bit so bear with me.

I want to remark upon a new trend I see among parents of my generation, the New Age Sensitive Dad. He loves to go on and on about how cool it is that having a child has changed everything into some positive experience. How he's empowering his child by using intentional language that will uplift her spirit and not burdening her with societies boundaries. How his baby only eats organic, glutton-free foods and plays with toys made in Europe to protect them from additives or other "poisons" present in commercially produced baby products. He loves to tell you all of the little things that he does in interacting with his child like he wrote some kind of a book on how to raise the most perfectly aware little human being on the planet.

Fucking gag!

It's a baby for fuck sake. The baby eats, shits, sleeps and cries just like any other 8 month old. Kudos to you for wanting to be involved with your baby's development but shut the fuck up about it already. Your child is not the second coming of enlightened beings, nor is it immune to being annoying when screaming for your attention. I don't give a fig about what that noise means or why ignoring her/him is teaching them independence, just make it shut up so we can have an adult conversation!

You're not any 'cooler' because you discovered all of these negative projections inside yourself that your have magically turned around into positive reinforcements because you have a child to think of now. Everyone can benefit from a little self examination and more positive outlook, we don't need to drop a crotch fruit in order to achieve a better relationship with the world around us. You are not a paragon of modern Feminist thinking because you have a daughter and wish to encourage her to discover her personal potential. Don't sprain your arm patting yourself on the back yet, your kid could turn out to be a degenerate little turd with or without your New Age positive thinking.

Yes I'm very happy for you, New Age Sensitive Dad, that your child has awakened this positive influence in your life. I would have been more happy for you if you could have found that on your own instead of becoming the poster boy for positive parenthood.

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Shell shock

2009-07-27T19:06:47Z

Just sharing a story here of why I won't have kids....

Last Thursday, my father blindsides me with a babysitting request for my sister. He and my brother in law have a joint project requiring they rent a truck and they need a babysitter for about 3 hours as my sister has to work that day. Since the first question he asked is "What are you doing tomorrow?" and I had foolishly answered "Nothing." I was now bushwhacked into babysitting 4 girls ages 2, 4, 7, 9.

FOUR hours after dropping me off, my dad and brother in law return. I have gone from fun Aunt Bird (so called because I have 4 birds) to evil bitch. On the plus side, the two eldest stopped fighting long enough to unite against me. So when I get home, my boyfriend is home for lunch. I walk through the door, and he asks me how it went. I shoot him a glare that says "DON"T YOU TOUCH ME YOU DISGUSTING HORNY PIG!!!!" and say "We are NEVER having children!!!" I don't remember the last time he laughed that hard.

God I hate kids!!!!!

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Tosh.0 Baby video

2009-07-27T05:36:20Z

http://vimeo.com/2042969
How pet ownership prepares one for parenthood. :-P

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Baby names! (not what you think)

2009-07-23T20:57:51Z

I know there was a thread here at one point with our favorite nicknames for children, but I can't find it. Let's make another list! So far I can remember:

crotch-dropping
crotch fruit
shit missile

I know there are more but am having a brain fart. Do share yours!

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Vatican Reaffirms Compassion Is For Fetuses, Not Children [Time via Jezebel]

2009-07-23T03:28:20Z

From Jezebel: http://jezebel.com/5318599/vatican-reaffirms-compassion-is-for-fetuses-not-children

"The Vatican issued a "clarification" to comments by Monsignor Rino Fisichella that Brazilian Archbishop Jose Cardoso Sobrinho should have tried some compassion in the case of the 9-year-old rape victim who had an abortion. In short: Fuck compassion. "

Time Article: http://www.time.com/time/world/article/0,8599,1911495,00.html?xid=rss-world

A Sequel to the Case of the Pregnant 9-Year Old

The Catholic Church (and Pope Benedict XVI) were presented with a public-relations powder keg in March when news broke that a 9-year-old Brazilian girl underwent an abortion after she'd been raped and impregnated with twins by her stepfather. Catholics from São Paulo to Paris were outraged by the swift public declaration of the local Archbishop, José Cardoso Sobrinho, that the girl's family as well as the doctors who performed the abortion were automatically excommunicated. Monsignor Rino Fisichella, a solidly traditionalist Rome prelate considered to be close to Benedict, tried to soften the church's approach to the case by writing in the Vatican's official newspaper L'Osservatore Romano that the girl "should have been defended, hugged and held tenderly to help her feel that we were all on her side." Two weeks ago, the Vatican announced that Sobrinho, who had been serving past retirement, was stepping down. And that's where the church stood. Until now.

-->>>>In a tucked-away "clarification" published on page 7 of a recent edition of L'Osservatore Romano, the Vatican produced a document that unequivocally confirmed automatic excommunication for anyone involved in an abortion — even in such a situation as dire as the Brazilian case. It settles any questions about the absolute nature of church doctrine on the matter of abortion — but it could potentially reignite the p.r. firestorm.

Church conservatives have steadfastly defended Sobrinho, who had rejected Fisichella's criticism of insensitivity and said he was simply stating Catholic doctrine in response to reporters' questions. The L'Osservatore Romano document makes it more than likely that the Pope has felt it necessary to publicly defend the Brazilian prelate's hard line, ordering up the clarification to straighten out any confusion created by Fisichella's article.

The brief document from the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, the orthodoxy office that Benedict personally led before becoming Pope, defends Sobrinho's "pastoral delicacy" and leaves no wiggle room on the standing of the family and doctors who carried out the abortion. "Formal cooperation in an abortion constitutes a grave offense. The Church attaches the canonical penalty of excommunication to this crime against human life," reads the statement, which widely cites past Vatican documents. "The Church does not thereby intend to restrict the scope of mercy. Rather, she makes clear the gravity of the crime committed, the irreparable harm done to the innocent who is put to death, as well as to the parents and the whole of society." (While the doctor and the girl's parents were excommunicated, the girl, being under age 18, was not subject to automatic excommunication.)

While the doctrinal stance breaks no new ground, the question now, like in March, is a matter of emphasis. Why, months after the difficult issue had largely faded from view, did the Pope feel compelled to return to a case that could leave the church looking coldhearted? A senior Vatican official says the Pope was forced to back up the Brazilian bishop. "[Sobrinho] was furious," says the official. "There was the impression that the local bishop had been subjected to immediate scrutiny by the Holy See."

But beyond the constant tug-of-war between Rome and local dioceses, there is a more important principle at stake. "We have laws, we have a discipline, we have a doctrine of the faith," the official says. "This is not just theory. And you can't start backpedaling just because the real-life situation carries a certain human weight." Benedict makes it ever more clear that his strict approach to doctrine will remain a central pillar to his papacy, bad publicity be damned.

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In the immortal words of Blue Oyster Cult's 'Godzilla'

2009-07-18T06:27:28Z

History shows again and again how nature points out the folly of men (or in this case, woman)

http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/nationworld/2009473182_apeuspainoldestmom.html

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Reaaly damn creepy.

2009-07-16T08:09:58Z

Have you guys had the pleasure that is the Evian roller-babies commercial? It gives me the heebie-jeebies.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_PHnRIn74Ag

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Kate + 8 - Jon

2009-07-06T21:04:21Z

So, it looks like the tension that we all saw with the popular family with 8 kids finally resulted in the announcement of divorce. http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20286839,00.html
I feel a little guilty for revelling in their difficult relationship, and a little let down that they did give up, and that it ended with a whimper rather than a bang. I was looking forward to a BIG fight. I guess we didn't get to see it.
I just don't understand how one manages to share 8 kids in a divorce. It's hard enough with one or two. Thank goodness we don't have to worry about such things, and can only watch and wonder.

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there are not even words

2009-07-06T21:02:38Z

http://tinyurl.com/no75qp

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kids in public

2009-07-02T05:35:29Z

I can't stand when I go to IHOP and a whole family is there. Screaming , rude kids and all.
Why do the parents always avoid eye contact with the rest of us who would like to eat a peaceful breakfast?

Is it because they feel that we should tolerate their kids behavior?

Even go to the zoo or aquarium and some kid squeezes in front of you to get the best view?

grrrr... why don't these places have adult only days?

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Federally funded 'pregnancy crisis' clinics exposed.

2009-06-24T01:58:07Z

Mother_Fuckers!

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sexual-justice/exposing-fake-womens-heal_b_217019.html

"Exposing Fake Women's Health Clinics: My Visit to a Local Crisis Pregnancy Center

By Myra Duran, a junior at UCLA and she is on the Executive Board of FMF affiliate Bruin Feminists for Equality.

If you are a student, you probably see so-called crisis pregnancy center ads all the time on campus. They read something like, "SCARED? PREGNANT? NEED HELP? Call 1-800-HELP NOW for a FREE pregnancy test. WE CAN HELP YOU WITH YOUR OPTIONS."

But the problem is -- these are false promises.

I am a member of Bruin Feminists for Equality at UCLA. We joined the Feminist Majority Foundation's Campaign to Expose Fake Clinics this Spring. Like the Campaign, we have two goals: to warn women, especially students, about fake clinics in our community and to let the government know deception on the public dime has got to go.

So-called crisis pregnancy crisis pregnancy centers lure women into their facilities with promises of free pregnancy tests and options counseling. But once inside, most provide women with false or misleading information about abortion, birth control, and sexually transmitted diseases. The real zinger is many of these CPCs receive our federal taxdollars to carry out their deception.

[[ video link in article if you follow link :Exposing Fake Women's Health Clinics from Stuart Productions on Vimeo.]]

So, with my boyfriend in tow, I went to find out for myself what kind of information and options a local CPC really offered. By reading its mission statement alone, a woman might mistake the center I visited as being feminist: "empowerment" is the central theme. Their brochure claims to offer "pregnancy options counseling" as well as tests for STDs and other screenings. But as I learned firsthand, their talk about options? Not so much.

The moment I walked in the door, I was hit with spa-like music and an offer of hot tea, which seemed designed to give me a false sense of comfort. The receptionist asked me to fill out paperwork and two things stood out: a question about my religious affiliation and about my partner's name and age. Another red flag was a disclaimer in very fine print about how most of their "staff" are volunteers and not certified health care professionals.

After I completed the paperwork the receptionist transformed into my counselor. She led me to a white, isolated room (without my boyfriend) and asked if the Director of the clinic could sit in our conversation. I agreed.

First, they asked me what I was going to do if I was pregnant. I replied, "I don't know." They said their facility does not recommend or perform pregnancy terminations. Quite suddenly I became keenly aware of a distinct pressure being placed on me by both women. It felt like a two-on-one tag team and I was their prey. The Director kept saying I was at the right place because other clinics do not provide the same "facts" that they do about abortion. She kept calling me "sweetie," as she told me abortion just complicates matters for women. She claimed abortion causes women psychological harm and she forcefully stated that abortion would not be the right choice for me.

So much for options counseling.

After the bombardment of questions, they asked for a sample of my urine -- in a Dixie cup (of all things!). Then, I was led to another room with what looked like an examination table. There a woman dressed in a white coat introduced herself. She did not identify herself as a doctor, nurse practitioner or nurse, but she certainly had the white coat. She asked me questions about my late period and if I was on birth control, but she never gave me any kind of a physical exam. Then, finally, she told me that I was not pregnant.

My response was, "Well, if I'm not pregnant, can I get birth control to avoid situations like this?" She said, "We don't get funding for that." I then asked her for condoms, and she replied again, "We don't get funding for that." There was only one prevention method she mentioned: avoid having sex altogether.

After this consultation, I was led back into the white, isolated room where I began. My initial 'counselor' greeted me with handfuls of abstinence-only education pamphlets. She then asked me if I felt "empowered" after this whole experience.

I replied, "No," and left.

But I am empowered by being a part of great group of active feminist students at UCLA and by participating in this pivotal national campaign to expose fake clinics.

Students need to know CPCs target campus health centers to get referrals. Thankfully our UCLA health center does not refer students to CPCs. But a nearby campus, Santa Monica College, does refer students to a local CPC. In fact, according to our sister feminist club at SMC, their student health center even invited a local CPC to table at their campus health fair this Spring.

No woman should be deceived into visiting one of these places unintentionally. So I am working on my campus to make sure women know where they can go to get comprehensive and un-biased reproductive health care and to warn them about fake clinics in our community.

Policy makers need to understand how CPCs intimidate and misinform women. Over the past eight years, the federal government pumped millions of dollars into CPCs as part of various abstinence-only-until-marriage initiatives. But funding for family planning has remained static or been decreased. President Obama seems interested in returning to evidence-based sexual health and pregnancy prevention programs. His 2010 budget proposes to eliminate most of the giant pots of federal money set aside for CPCs and failed abstinence only education programs.

We must speak out now to end federal funding for these fake clinics.

It is high time to end the dark ages of the Bush era. We can no longer afford to believe the sun revolves around the earth, the threat of global warming is a fiction, and that abstinence-only education and CPCs merit hard-earned tax dollars.

So get involved and help expose fake clinics on your campus or in your community. Empowerment through action is a beautiful thing.

For more information on the FMF's Choices Campus Leadership Program and the Campaign to Expose Fake Clinics, visit www.feministcampus.org.

Originally published on RHrealitycheck.org."

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Why the fuck do you have a kid?

2009-06-24T01:54:55Z

Srsly!!

http://whythefuckdoyouhaveakid.com/

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At last!

2009-05-29T06:25:58Z

I've found a G.P that doesn't think I'm too young to get sterilised & she's backing my case with the consultant.....one more appoinment & I'll be booked in!
Am soooo excited, but there's no-one to tell who'll be happy for me... 'cept this tribe. : (

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Parental Responsibility

2009-05-15T01:38:38Z

It would be nice if some people had it. Apparently the death of a child on their watch is the fault of various household products.

Such as doggy doors
http://www.abcnews.go.com/Blotter/AmazingAnimals/story?id=7561260&page=1

And flat-screens
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/30686493/

Perhaps you should watch your own damn kids and make sure the house is child-proofed? Even *I* know that. It's very sad that this happened to you, but take some responsibility.

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we need more of these

2009-05-11T19:46:27Z

http://www.metro.co.uk/weird/article.html?Toy_parrot_tells_girl,_5,_to_b****r_off&in_article_id=644577&in_page_id=2

... many many more

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Look! You can finally kennel your kids!

2009-05-10T17:08:13Z

Okay, sort of:

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/05/07/us/07safe.html?_r=2&hp

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secretweet - mommy regrets...

2009-05-07T03:04:41Z

and several others chime in!

http://secrettweet.com/secret.php?id=40718

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"Female vasectomy"

2009-05-06T03:48:53Z

This looks very promising.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1168161/First-British-woman-undergoes-15-minute-sterilisation.html

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"Pregnant Women Are Smug"

2009-05-04T17:28:58Z

Have you people heard this delightful little ditty?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJRzBpFjJS8

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"The Best Green Technology Is Population Control"

2009-04-10T01:09:45Z

http://io9.com/5201004/the-best-green-technology-is-population-control

"I don't see our environmental ills as a failure of technical capacity. Many technologies can have a positive effect on the environment; the problem is us, and where we tend to focus our innovative energy.

"As environmental ideas have entered the zeigeist, mostly thanks to global warming—and still mostly focused on that issue—plenty of technology companies are lining up to tell us how they're helping green/save/clean the environment. Advertising agencies and PR firms are delighted to sell us any number of "green" gizmos and they're throwing in some nice self-esteem blowjobs for all of us, using their persuasive talents to assure us that we're enlightened and forward thinking because we just stuffed a green X into our Prius.

"But green blowjobs aren't really my gig. I'm not interested in PV cells, or solar paint, or zero emissions cars, or any of a zillion other objects that companies want to sell us so that we can feel good about ourselves while we roar off the cliff. If I had to think of a couple technologies that I greatly admire, I would say... wool sweaters and long underwear are fabulous. They have a low manufacturing cost and are far more efficient than burning coal for electric heat, or burning heating oil, and they might even obviate the need for a better-insulated house. I remain enamored with bicycles and their gears. These technologies are so wonderfully elegant and do so much while asking so little that I like them quite a lot. And certainly I like the hat and gloves I wear so that I can ride my bike to work in the winter, instead of being tempted to drive my car.

"But the one—the most absolutely key, the rock star green technology—that I champion over all others is birth control: vasectomies, IUDs, the pill, condoms. I don't care which kind you or your family prefers or finds most appropriate, I love them all. Any technology that reduces the absolute number of consumers (and particularly Americans and Europeans who consume the most) now that's a TECHNOLOGY!" — Pump Six And Other Stories author Paolo Bacigalupi," [orig at ecogeek.org ]

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Yea! We are gaining momentum!

2009-04-08T07:23:15Z

http://www.cnn.com/2009/HEALTH/03/24/vasectomy.increase.economy/index.html

In troubled times, vasectomies snip and prosper
Story Highlights
Urologists report a higher demand for vasectomies in recent months

In New York, vasectomies increase after stocks tumble in fall 2008

During recessions, people have fewer children, according to health statistics

By Madison Park
CNN
(CNN) -- Dr. J. Stephen Jones had seven vasectomies to perform in a day.

The schedule for Jones, a Cleveland, Ohio, urologist, has become more crowded during a recent boom in vasectomies.

"My staff came to me and said, what's happening?" said Jones, the chairman of the Department of Regional Urology of Glickman Urological and Kidney Institute at the Cleveland Clinic. "Why are we suddenly having an explosion in guys asking for vasectomies?"

They looked at their statistics and realized the uptick started around November as the economic crisis deepened. October went down in the history books as one of Wall Street's worst months.

Since then, the Cleveland Clinic has seen a 50 percent increase in vasectomies, an outpatient surgery that is the cheapest form of permanent birth control. Vasectomies are less invasive and cheaper than tubal ligation, which involves blocking, tieing or cutting a woman's fallopian tubes to prevent pregnancy.

"It's unlikely that some guy read the Dow Jones numbers that day and said, 'Why don't we have a vasectomy?' " Jones said. "More likely, people have already been considering it and typically a guy and his wife have spoken a year or two about this."

Jones was told by patients that they were getting vasectomies because they were losing their jobs and health insurance, or concerned about being out of work soon.

"They realize they don't have the financial security long-term with what's going on," Jones said. "Several of them have mentioned, 'We can't afford to have any more children in this economy.' My perception is that it's more of the concept of raising children in an uncertain economic future."

Much like Jones, Dr. Marc Goldstein, surgeon-in-chief of male reproductive medicine and surgery at the Cornell Institute for Reproductive Medicine in New York, saw a 48 percent increase in vasectomy consultations compared with the same time last year.

"I have never seen anything like this," said Goldstein, a urologist for the last 30 years. "When things started to go south in the stock market, then the vasectomy consults went north."

Half of Goldstein's New York patients work in the financial sector. New patients filed into his office in November.

"I think the situation of finance and the economy is the major reason," Goldstein said. "Some of them have mentioned that, 'It cost $30,000 a year to put my kids in private school and I can't afford to have another one.' It's never the sole reason, but it's certainly a contributing factor."

During the vasectomy, the doctor cuts the two vas deferens, which are the tubes carrying sperm from the testicles to become semen. After the procedure, men can still have sex, but their semen does not contain sperm and therefore they can no longer father children.

Doctors can attempt to reverse the procedure, but vasectomy reversals are expensive and only work half the time in restoring sperm flow.

Carl Haub, a demographer with the Population Reference Bureau, a private research firm, said the National Center for Health Statistics' data showed that, "During bad economic times, the Depression and the recession in the 1970s, the birth rate did go down." See the chart on fertility rates in the United States from 1917 to 2007 »

"Some folks will postpone having kids," he said. "If you had a vasectomy, you've made a bigger decision that you're never going to have another child."

When people stop having children, it implies a loss of confidence in their future employment prospects.

"Am I going to have a job in six months or a year from now?" Haub said. "If I'm concerned about that, people are not going to increase their financial obligations... It's naïve to say the economy didn't play a significant role in lowering the birth rate."

It's too early to tell whether this recession has crimped the birth rate, Haub said.

At this point, most of the evidence of increased vasectomies has been anecdotal from practicing urologists, because there is no national registry for sterilizations.

The number of appointment requests spiked 30 percent in January 2009 on the Web site vasectomy.com, which links people with local urologists. But throughout the last few months, appointment requests have been fairly level, said Dr. Ted Benderev, founder of the site.

Dr. Lawrence Ross, a professor of urology at the University of Illinois at Chicago and former president of the American Urological Association, said the school's clinics have seen moderate increases in the last six months to a year and that vasectomies are growing popular among lower-income clients.

"My guess is that since economic times have worsened, people are concerned about their ability to raise larger families and are opting for more permanent birth control," Ross said.

People who are concerned about losing their health insurance are trying to take advantage of the coverage for a procedure they've long considered.

"It may have something to do with the economy," said Dr. Bryan Kansas, a urologist. "I can't count on my hands, in the last three months, the number of times someone has said they're about to lose their insurance and ask to squeeze them in."

He and his colleagues have seen a similar uptick in their Austin, Texas, practice called The Urology Team.

Throughout March Madness, Kansas' office has a special on vasectomies called, "Vas-Madness" to capitalize on their patient's obsession with the college basketball tournament.

Patients "would love to have a procedure, go home and sit there when you've got all-day programming, watch basketball," Kansas said.

After the less-than-hourlong procedure, patients usually spend a day or two recovering, moving gingerly and icing the soreness. Some men time their vasectomies around the time of major sports events such as the Masters Golf Tournament and the NCAA basketball tournament to keep themselves entertained during recovery.

Vasectomies are likely to produce tenderness, discomfort and slight swelling and the patient is usually able to return to usual activities within a week.

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friends that morph into something else after having children

2009-04-08T07:20:04Z

Hi all - I apologize is this has been discussed before - I looked through many of the archives, but not all.

I've been having a bit of a tough time lately, simply because many of my friends have gotten pregnant and have been having kids. Now, even though I don't want the rugrats myself, I planned on being tolerant. But in the past year, I've witnessed about four friends of mine morph into something I'm having a hard time dealing with. One of them I'm not allowed to call at all because her feeding schedule is too busy and erratic. Another launches into the "Well, you couldn't *possibly* understand any of this, you sorry, mere childless mortal" business. (For the record, it is correct that I have no experience with having a child, but I understand being overtired, I understand having fucked-up hormones, and from my stint working in the hospital, I actually know a lot about conditions surrounding and resulting from pregnancy. I do not like being treated like a moron.) And then there's the inability to speak in grown-up sentences. I realize that likely comes from spending days on end with just the baby and "spewing cute" is just a natural side effect. Perhaps, because I grew up in a house of adults who just spoke normally, for the most part, I take issue with the drool-y babble-y adult. (I think it doesn't help matters that I remember being a child and hating it when visitors would "talk down" to me with the baby talk business.)

Anyone else have this issue? Anyone have a successful way to cope?
(And, yes, I've been trying to find other friends, but I'm rather saddened that folks I used to find so witty and funny have turned hateful and condescending.)

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Ha!!

2009-04-02T01:15:41Z

Quatto-wear : ).

http://i.gizmodo.com/5191510/peekaru-is-a-baby-snuggie

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Condoms, AIDS and the Pope

2009-04-01T00:11:58Z

They just don't get it...

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/europe/4081276.stm

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Finally! Octomom Gets a Clue.

2009-03-29T22:17:17Z

http://www.usmagazine.com/news/octo-mom-admits-fertility-treatments-were-irrational-2009103

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best magic trick ever

2009-03-25T15:32:18Z

.. ahh, if only

http://www.i-am-bored.com/bored_link.cfm?link_id=39059

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Bristol Palin and Her Baby Daddy Break Up

2009-03-15T23:50:01Z

Well we all knew this was coming...

http://news.yahoo.com/s/eonline/20090312/en_celeb_eo/103969

I like the part where it says "he has to do everything by the book now"... Uh like the rest of the world?

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Coming around to my way of thinking

2009-03-14T20:44:56Z

If there was one thing that was disparate between my bf and I, it was the subject of kids. I don't want, haven't since I was 14. He says he wants eventually...until recently

Our craptastic roommate is a 29 year old man with the maturity level of your average 2 year old. BF is so frustrated with having to parent an adult man who was his best friend for 15 years that he's starting to make noises against having kids in general.

YAY!!!!!

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Jimmy having fun with Nadya

2009-03-13T21:32:19Z

This shit is hilarious

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UKN1jXLRPpc&feature=channel

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ew37j7jnXSc&feature=channel

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=he7CTUh7eow&feature=channel

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rjPRT2vc9ao&feature=channel

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hfsr-pG-umQ&feature=channel

There's more, just scout around. Jimmy's got it goin' on.

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Making fun of OctoMom

2009-03-12T20:47:36Z

I know making fun of OctoMom is easy, and everyone should do it often. But Jimmy Kimmel is doing some pretty cool stuff on his show. Bounce around the links on this one and watch the videos. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/02/25/jimmy-kimmels-exclusive-i_n_169899.html

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More Octomom if you can stand it

2009-03-11T22:11:35Z

Homeless mother of 14? Can you see her standing at the end of an offramp with the brood? Will work for formula?

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,496169,00.html

Who would want to have sex wit this thing?

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,494244,00.html

She manages to justify her claims of not receiving welfare.

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,490269,00.html

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Pronatalist Movement Building Speed .... yikes

2009-03-11T16:48:02Z

I visit a more left christian blog from time to time called Talk To Action because they specifically report on fundy activities. An article today is about the pronatalist movement gaining considerable numbers in christianity and not just the fundy extremes.

http://www.talk2action.org/story/2009/3/11/12717/9382/Dominionism_in_the_military/Victory_Through_Daughters_An_Excerpt_from_Quiverfull

"Victory Through Daughters: An Excerpt from Quiverfull
Today my first book, Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement, which I've written about at Talk to Action before, was published by Beacon Press. In it, I've investigated the growing ranks of the explicitly pronatalist, and self-named, "patriarchy" movement, which advocates strict interpretations of wifely submission to male headship, women forgoing all forms of contraception to bear as many children as God gives them, and homeschooling their daughters to do the same. So far, the book is being received as a fair and accurate depiction of a growing movement within conservative evangelicaldom (including kind words from Christianity Today) that deserves more attention than it has received to date. An excerpt of the book has been published at religion journalism site Killing the Buddha.."

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Hug an abortionist today...

2009-03-11T05:32:44Z

So I tried to post this earlier but alas, tribe was down.

http://www.thenation.com/blogs/anotherthing/415640

"March 10th is National Day of Appreciation for Abortion Providers, and man oh man could they use some love. Obama's victory may protect Roe v Wade in the Supreme Court, but state legislatures are doing their best to pile on the obstacles and restrictions: mandatory ultrasounds are the latest fad, with bills being considered in eleven states ( because apparently women are so stupid they might not realize they're having an abortion because they're pregnant). And then, as Michael Winerip reported in an unusually thorough piece in Sunday's New York Times (in the Style section, sigh, along with the rest of the girlynews), the women's health activists who form the backbone of many clinic staffs are retiring and proving hard to replace in the more conservative and rural regions, like upstate New York, the South and Midwest. Doctors, nurses and technicians are reluctant to work in clinics in anti-choice places where they will be picketed, socially ostracized and forced to protect themselves daily against possible violence. Low pay is another factor: anti-choicers love to talk about abortion as a business, but adjusted for inflation, the price of a first trimester abortion is about what it was thirty years ago, although security-related costs have skyrocketed -- one reason why clinic staffers make about half what they would in another specialty.

Will the next generation step up to the plate? Sally Burgess, head of the National Abortion Federation, thinks that growing up with legal abortion, too many lack "the fire in the belly." Then too, med school policies mean only a small proportion of medical students are even learning how to perform this relatively simple procedure.

You can show your support for the selfless people who make more than words on a page by making a donation to the Women's Reproductive Rights Assistance Project (WRRAP) , an all-volunteer group which helps low-income girls and women around the country pay for their abortion care. As the economy sinks and unemployment rises, more and more women will find themselves both needing to terminate a pregnancy and unable to come up with the cost. Help WRAPP be there for clinics and for women.

Donations of any size are more than welcome (and yes, the rather odd name on the Paypal account is correct -- I checked), but if you send me your receipt for $50 or more, I will mail you a signed copy of Learning to Drive: and Other Life Stories, my collection of personal essays.
"

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Non Surgical Permanent Birth Control?

2009-03-10T22:02:52Z

http://essure.com/Home/Understanding/WhatisEssure/tabid/55/Default.aspx

I just saw an ad for this and am intrigued. I would like to take a wait and see approach regarding any negative effects, but I am hopeful.

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Priorities

2009-03-07T01:09:54Z

I'm not going to say this is RIGHT...

THE BIRD FOR THE KIDS _ A Louisiana woman is accused of trading two young children in her care for a pet cockatoo and $175 cash from a couple who had been trying for years to have their own child. Authorities say Donna Greenwell, a long-haul trucker, spotted a flier selling a cockatoo for $1,500 and called the couple, who'd been trying to have children. When they told that to Greenwell, she allegedly offered to hand over the 5-year-old-boy and 4-year-old-girl for about $2000. When the couple said they couldn't meet the price, Greenwell agreed to make an even trade: the bird for the kids. Everything began to unravel when authorities received a phone tip that the couple and the children would be at a fast food restaurant. The children are now in state custody.

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Hahahaha!

2009-02-26T23:54:05Z

Okay, I so wouldn't want to see it, but how funny is this?

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,500186,00.html

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Just gets uglier and uglier

2009-02-19T05:12:08Z

http://www.newsday.com/news/health/ny-hsocto14-nws,0,5776425.story?track=rss

Make sure you watch the end of the video, you can see some of the comments people have left for her. Somehow I don't think things are working out quite as Ms. Suleman intended.

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Gaaaaaahhhh!!!!!!!

2009-02-17T20:55:05Z

UGH: http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/article2233878.ece

Baby-faced boy Alfie Patten is father at 13

BOY dad Alfie Patten yesterday admitted he does not know how much nappies cost — but said: “I think it’s a lot.”

Baby-faced Alfie, who is 13 but looks more like eight, became a father four days ago when his girlfriend Chantelle Steadman gave birth to 7lb 3oz Maisie Roxanne.

He told how he and Chantelle, 15, decided against an abortion after discovering she was pregnant.

The shy lad, whose voice has not yet broken, said: “I thought it would be good to have a baby.

“I didn’t think about how we would afford it. I don’t really get pocket money. My dad sometimes gives me £10.”

More, with photos, at the link.

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I feel my lunch coming up.

2009-02-13T21:44:51Z

http://thenadyasulemanfamily.com/

She has a place for you to leave comments for her and her family. I wish there were a place to go see the comments that have been left.

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Continuing updates on Octomom

2009-02-13T21:40:18Z

From Octomom's interview with Ann Curry, obviously one of the most intelligent people in the media today. Right.

"

Octo-Mom Speaks
Friday, February 6, 2009 Email article | Print article
Nadya Suleman defends her unconventional choices.

Watch the interview here.

Nadya Suleman denies being selfish, says she holds each baby 45 minutes

By Mike Celizic

MSNBC.COM
TODAYShow.com contributor

The Southern California woman who gave birth to octuplets last week told TODAY’s Ann Curry in an exclusive interview that growing up as an only child, she had always dreamed of having “a huge family.”

She also denied charges that she was irresponsible to have so many babies — especially with six other children already at home.

“People feel, you know, this woman is being completely irresponsible and selfish to bring these children in the world without a clear source of income and enough help to raise them,” Curry told Nadya Suleman in a segment that aired Friday on TODAY.

“The world outside is saying, ‘What are you doing?’ ”“I know I'll be able to afford them when I'm done with my schooling,” the 33-year-old single mom replied. Calm, poised and articulate in the glare of the media spotlight, Suleman added: “If I was just sitting down watching TV and not being as determined as I am to succeed and provide a better future for my children, I believe that would be considered, to a certain degree, selfish.”‘I love my children’

Suleman, who said she holds each premature infant 45 minutes each day, said she was hoping to have one more child after having six previous children, all of whom are under the age of 7. She said she had six embryos implanted, two of which resulted in twins.

Curry reported that although Suleman has received disability payments from the State of California, she said she refuses to accept welfare payments. Suleman and her children live with her mother, Angela Suleman.“All I wanted was children. I wanted to be a mom. That's all I ever wanted in my life. I love my children,” she told Curry.

Curry said that Suleman said she intends to return to college in the fall to complete a master’s degree in counseling. Suleman had worked in a state mental hospital from 1997-2006, but spent much of the time after 1999 on disability after being injuring her back in a riot at the facility.Suleman said she is a good mother.

“I'm providing myself to my children. I'm loving them unconditionally, accepting them unconditionally,” she told Curry. “Everything I do. I'll stop my life for them and be present with them. And hold them. And be with them. And how many parents do that? I'm sure there are many that do, but many don't. And that's unfortunate. That is selfish.”‘Phenomenal risk’

Suleman said she was fully aware of the risks of carrying eight fetuses. “Those are my children, and that’s what was available,” she said. “It’s a gamble.”In a separate segment, NBC’s chief medical editor, Dr. Nancy Snyderman, said the gamble didn’t end with the live births of all eight babies.“That risk is not only to mom – her uterus can rupture and she can die — there’s a phenomenal risk to eight babies. Eight babies, by definition, cannot be born normal weight and robust,” Snyderman told TODAY’s Matt Lauer after watching Suleman’s interview with Curry.

She explained: “They’re going to watch these kids very carefully for eating problems, growing [problems], and then seizures, jaundice, heart problems, lung problems, blindness, developmental delays — there’s a laundry list of things. Long-term, because some of these children will be physically or mentally challenged, there’s a looming price tag out here. The hospital bill alone will run $1.5-3 million dollars. Forget about getting to college; just to get through special needs stuff — it’s going to have to come from somewhere, either the taxpayers of California or her family or her church or the hospital.

But she can’t do it alone.”NBC contributor and psychiatrist Dr. Gail Saltz added that there will be emotional issues to deal with as well. “Undoubtedly these eight children are going to have issues: at the minimum, the issue of neglect,” Saltz told Lauer.

“Obviously, she’s saying she’s going to love them, but there are 14 children and there are one of her,” Saltz continued. “There’s going to be an absence of some emotional needs. There will probably be developmental delays at best in these children; maybe learning disabilities. There are going to be major issues that they’re going to need various therapies for.”Childhood dream

Suleman said she went to the same in vitro fertilization clinic to have all 14 of her children. All were conceived with donated sperm from the same father, Suleman said. Suleman told Curry that the father is a bit overwhelmed right now but she is hoping that he will want to get to know his children when he is ready.

“How did an only child end up with 14 children?” Curry asked Nadya Suleman.“That was always a dream of mine, to have a large family, a huge family, and I just longed for certain connections and attachments with another person that I really lacked, I believe, growing up,” she replied. The entire exclusive interview will air along with exclusive video of the babies on TODAY Monday, Feb. 9, and on Dateline at 10 p.m. on Tuesday, Feb. 10.

“Describe what you felt you lacked within,” Curry said.“Feeling of self and identity,” Suleman, 33, replied. “I didn't feel as though, when I was a child, I had much control of my environment. I felt powerless. And that gave me a sense of predictability. Reflecting back on my childhood, I know it wasn't functional. It was pretty dysfunctional, and whose isn't?”Saltz later opined to Lauer that Suleman’s statement reveals emotional issues. “I think she’s in a bit of denial here and quite defensive, because in fact she does talk about the fact that this has been her life’s mission: to have babies, have babies, have babies."

In the first part of the second paragraph, am I the only one here who has no idea what the fuck she's talking about? A sense of predictability? What the hell does that mean? She's got a bad case of psychobabble going on here. I would really like to ignore this whole thing, but I can't do it. It's like a train wreck. You don't want to look, but you have to.

At least most of the corporate sponsors that would usually rush in to giver her everything in the world are taking a step back, what with all the unanswered questions, and the obvious mental illness of this woman and her doctor.

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More great children's products coming from China. :)

2009-02-12T02:13:37Z

http://invisiblered.blogspot.com/2009/01/shi-jinsong.html

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Ok, here's another one

2009-02-11T19:10:31Z

That needs to be slapped around real good. "Single, stay-at-home mom." Is that just the politically correct way of saying welfare queen?

http://www.mlive.com/flintjournal/index.ssf/2008/11/flint_mother_latrica_ryan_of_1.html

I like at the end of the picture caption, it says the one thing she desperately needs is a washer and dryer. What about a husband? Or maybe a brain?

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Kasier wants you to pay for the octuplets...

2009-02-11T19:05:31Z

http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-octuplets11-2009feb11,0,1790195.story

"The babies, who are 16 days old, have already racked up a conservative $153,344 in Medi-Cal costs, not including their delivery. Kaiser doctors have said they will remain hospitalized for seven to 12 weeks. If they stay for seven weeks, the cost would be $469,616. If they stay 12 weeks, the cost would be $805,056."

Whiskey.
Tango.
Foxtrot.

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Update, it's even worse than we thought

2009-02-07T05:53:07Z

This lady needs to be held down, sliced open, and all of her reproductive parts cut out with a dull saw.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090131/ap_on_re_us/octuplets

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Best child-free comercial ever

2009-02-05T05:43:04Z

Someone may have posted this before but I stumbled upon it on youtube the other day and thought I should share. If I wasn't planning on not having kids, I'm sure I'm not now after seeing it! Enjoy!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nojWJ6-XmeQ

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Ugh another litter

2009-01-29T16:52:19Z

(CNN) -- A woman in California delivered what may be the nation's second live-born set of octuplets on Monday morning, surprising doctors who expected seven babies.

http://www.cnn.com/2009/HEALTH/01/26/california.octuplets/

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Stewpid, Balderdash "Walk for Life" protest happening this Saturday in SF!

2009-01-25T14:22:40Z

REpost form 'Feminists who do not hate men' tribe:

Stop the War on Women’s Reproductive Rights

Unite to Fight the Right Wing!

Protest the Anti-Abortion “Walk for Life”

--Phone banking & demo prep with Radical Women

Thursday, January 22, 7:00pm (dinner at 6:15pm)

New Valencia Hall, 625 Larkin St. , Ste. 202, SF

calradicalwomen@yahoo.com or 415-864-1278

--Abortion Rights Demonstration

Sponsor: Bay Area Coalition for Our Reproductive Rights

Make the anniversary of the Roe v. Wade ruling that affirmed a woman’s right to abortion a day of mass outrage against ultra-right bigotry.

Saturday, January 24, 2009, 10:30am

Music Concourse, Embarcadero, end of Market St. , San Francisco

We call for:

Free abortion on demand; No forced sterilization!

Defend immigrant rights; Stop the racist Minutemen!

Civil rights for queers; Rescind anti-marriage Prop 8!

Contact: Bay Area Coalition for Our Reproductive Rights (BACORR)

bacorrinfo@yahoo.com or www.BACORR.org or 415-864-1278

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I think I am going to start eating Krispy Kreme doughnuts

2009-01-20T21:44:45Z

Pro-Life Group up in Arms over Krispy Kreme's Abortion Doughnuts
http://blogs.miaminewtimes.com/riptide/2009/01/pro-life_group_up_in_arms_over.php#
By Kyle Munzenrieder in PoliticksThursday, Jan. 15 2009 @ 1:16PM

Krispy Kreme, being the genial purveyor of glazed goodness that it is, decided to get in on the Obama inauguration craze and is offering one free doughnut to every costumer on January 20, Inauguration day, and released this seemingly innocuous press release:
"Krispy Kreme Doughnuts, Inc. (NYSE: KKD) is honoring American's sense of pride and freedom of choice on Inauguration Day, by offering a free doughnut of choice to every customer on this historic day, Jan. 20. By doing so, participating Krispy Kreme stores nationwide are making an oath to tasty goodies -- just another reminder of how oh-so-sweet 'free' can be."
Well, The American Life League noticed the liberal use of the word choice and decided to blast the chain bakery for producing abortion doughnuts.

"The unfortunate reality of a post-Roe v. Wade America is that 'choice' is synonymous with abortion access, and celebration of 'freedom of choice' is a tacit endorsement of abortion rights on demand," the group's president, Judie Brown said in a statement.

File this under "Overreactionary Wing Nuts" and another attempt of conservatives to redefine words for their political means (You can try to rewrite the Constitution, but not the dictionary). Of course, the "overreactionary libtard" counter to this is that conservatives want to demonize all choice from America until we're living under a fundamentalist dictatorship. A fundamentalist dictatorship without doughnuts.

The full, completely unbelievable press release follows after the jump.

KRISPY KREME CELEBRATES OBAMA WITH PRO-ABORTION DOUGHNUTS Washington, DC (15 January 2009) -

The following is a statement from American Life League president Judie Brown:

"The next time you stare down a conveyor belt of slow-moving, hot, sugary glazed donuts at your local Krispy Kreme, you just might be supporting President-elect Barack Obama's radical support for abortion on demand - including his sweeping promise to sign the Freedom of Choice Act as soon as he steps in the Oval Office, Jan. 20.

"The doughnut giant released the following statement yesterday:

'Krispy Kreme Doughnuts, Inc. (NYSE: KKD) is honoring American's sense of pride and freedom of choice on Inauguration Day, by offering a free doughnut of choice to every customer on this historic day, Jan. 20. By doing so, participating Krispy Kreme stores nationwide are making an oath to tasty goodies -- just another reminder of how oh-so-sweet "free" can be.'

"Just an unfortunate choice of words? For the sake of our Wednesday morning doughnut runs, we hope so. The unfortunate reality of a post Roe v. Wade America is that 'choice' is synonymous with abortion access, and celebration of 'freedom of choice' is a tacit endorsement of abortion rights on demand.

"President-elect Barack Obama promises to be the most virulently pro-abortion president in history. Millions more children will be endangered by his radical abortion agenda.

"Celebrating his inauguration with 'Freedom of Choice' doughnuts - only two days before the anniversary of the Supreme Court decision to decriminalize abortion - is not only extremely tacky, it's disrespectful and insensitive and makes a mockery of a national tragedy.

"A misconstrued concept of 'choice' has killed over 50 million preborn children since Jan. 22, 1973. Does Krispy Kreme really want their free doughnuts to celebrate this 'freedom.'

"As of Thursday morning, communications director Brian Little could not be reached for comment. We challenge Krispy Kreme doughnuts to reaffirm their commitment to true freedom - to the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness - and to separate themselves and their doughnuts from our great American shame.

"American Life League was cofounded in 1979 by Julie Brown. It is the largest grassroots Catholic pro-life organization in the United States and is committed to the protection of all innocent human beings from the moment of creation to natural death."

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Vatican says that contraceptive pill is polluting environment

2009-01-18T02:11:25Z

They'll try anything to force in their anti-choice policies, apparently:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20090103/hl_afp/vaticanreligioncontraception_090103212901

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"I feel sorry for you."

2009-01-08T03:02:46Z

No bitch, I feel sorry for YOU.

Ok, end of rant. Thanks for tuning in.

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Facebook Users Protest Breast-Feeding Image Policy

2009-01-05T20:55:25Z

You know.. why would you post something like that unless you need a "rise" out of people? That is just f-ed up. You should read the posts... about "hauling out the udders" hhahahahaha

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,474044,00.html

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Video - Posh Nosh - Birthday Parties

2009-01-04T07:36:49Z

Rather than celebrating with friends, I decided to take it easy tonight. I found myself watching episodes of Posh Nosh, a rather snarky take on cooking shows. In the second episode, they talk a lot about their childless status and the reasons behind it. I thought many of you might get a kick out of it :)

http://video.aol.com/video-detail/posh-nosh-episode-2-birthday-parties/1634147821

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i :::heart:: my life!

2008-12-26T00:56:02Z

hi all,
first of all-- ive been reading this tribe for the past year, love you guys! xoxoxo

QUESTION:
do you think its a bit odd that i am a RN and my main specialties are labor/delivery, and neonatal intensive care and i am so PRO CHILD FREE..????
i love working with my mamas, and babys, and helping/working with really sick kids...
how ironic what i do for work--as i am totally on the kid free lifestyle..
wow i am so excited i DONT have to do any of it!!!..the sacrifices, money, loss of freedom...
just thinking about it makes me feel so HAPPY and FREE!!!! yay.
however, this trips me out that i deliver babies for a living..mostly its a fun gig for me..
<<dont laugh>>>
pretty much all my patients ask how many kids i have, im always like "oh no not me, i have dogs...
why do people always have to ask?
ask if your married, ask you if you have kids, ask you when your having kids..
and then say oh you can still adopt when you change your mind..

bleh

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Yet another one

2008-12-23T20:29:13Z

She's up to #18 now... http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/18th_baby

Makes me want to puke.

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To be printed and hung in every bar and coffeeshop that you ever go to.

2008-12-22T22:37:49Z

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/getababysitter.shtml

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Why have kids,

2008-12-10T23:58:30Z

When you could have puppies!!!

http://www.ustream.tv/videoplayerpopup/channel/317016

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Yay!!!

2008-12-08T17:15:13Z

Just feeling grateful, yet again, for not having kids during this recession. Especially during the "Buying Season". Woot!

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"Baby"

2008-12-06T00:04:04Z

http://pbfcomics.com/?cid=PBF231-Baby.jpg

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